Dying Matters 2020
Dying Matters Week this year runs from Monday 11 – Sunday 17 May, and has as its theme ‘Dying to be Heard’.
Conversations about death, and about funeral plans, can be very difficult. Listening to those conversations can be very hard too, but we must be willing to listen. It’s all too easy to dodge that conversation, to make a joke and back off.
However, if someone close to you wants to talk about their death and their plans, we really do owe it to them to listen and to be part of the conversation. They are ‘Dying to be heard’ and we need to become an active listener.
Our medical director, Patrick Fitzgerald has videoed a series of conversations with other team members which may help you either approach the subject yourself or feel more confident in responding.
I want to say something
I want to say something covers: The role of Advance Care Planning. What I want before death, and I want to happen afterwards. Sharing information with healthcare professionals, and also those you love. Making sure you have an input over what matters to you - including your property, your digital legacy like Facebook or photographs on your computer, and your health.
He wants to say something, and I’m really scared I won’t know what to say back
He wants to say something, and I'm really scared I won't know what to say back covers: Learning how to listen to difficult information. We can help you learn how to support these conversations so they don't dry up.
Where do I write all this down? And what will I do with it?
Where do I write all this down? And what will I do with it? covers: Making an Advance Care Plan. Using our version - My Care, My Way - or yours. What's important to you? What's important for those looking after you to know?
What if she can't tell me anymore?
What if she can't tell me anymore? covers: Making an Advance Care Plan for someone who can no longer contribute, for example those with dementia.
Dying Matters has a number of excellent resources available on their website www.dyingmatters.org. You may find the leaflets below to be of use: